It’s a new year and like most people I am happy to see 2016 go. Most people take advantage of the new year by wiping their slate clean and setting some goals for themselves. While I do have goals for myself, I thought it would be much more interesting to go in a different direction. 2016 really threw a lot of crap at me that I didn’t want any part of. Maybe you felt the same? In 2017 I’m hoping to swerve left and avoid that shit and some bad habits I picked up along the way. So today I am bringing you a few of the things I’m hoping to avoid this year.
- Ranting About My Best Friend’s Sucky Boyfriend
To be honest, I’m surprised I have not blogged about this because it is something that I constantly talk about in real life. One of my best friends started dating this guy at the very end of 2015. They had a long distance relationship at the start of 2016 and now he’s back home for good. I’m not going to get into all of the details but basically they have an unhealthy relationship and I am not his biggest fan. It’s not that he’s a terrible person, I just don’t think he’s right for her. I also don’t like the fact that he’s judgmental. There’s actually a lot of things that I have issue with. Okay, I need to stop going into to detail because then this post will be over 2000 words long. You don’t want that, I don’t want that.Anyway…most of my friends and family are sick of hearing me rant about this. I’m sick of ranting about it because I’ve realized it’s not healthy for me. Also, me telling my best friend is not doing anything. She has to make her own choices and come to realize things on her own. I’ve got my own love life to deal with. So avoiding ranting about their relationship will be better for everyone!
Raise your hand if you have put off doing something you planned on doing in 2016 and never got to it. I expect to see a lot of hands here. I see you fellow procrastinators, I see you. Just so you know both of my hands are raised, that’s how bad I’ve been with procrastination this year.When I graduated from college a few years back I thought there would be less stuff to procrastinate in the “real world.” Turns out there’s just as much if not more. I have been a bad writer, a bad creative project starter, and a bad job applier. At the start of the year I had a few creative projects I wanted to either start or finish. I did not meet any of my goals. This year I need to finish something and get serious about the things I want to do. There is no time like the present. While I know there will be things I put off, I’m hoping to avoid procrastinating less frequently.
- Stupid Arguments
This election year just brought the worst out in everyone! While I was good at avoiding fights on Facebook and social media, I was less good at about avoiding these arguments in real life. It would start off as an regular discussion and then all of a sudden BAM! I found myself in the middle of an argument that either started from a stupid reason, was over something stupid, or was just stupid in general. It would be one thing if by the end of this argument all parties involved came to some sort of understanding, but usually that never happened. What I’ve learned, especially this year, is that when someone is very passionate about something you’re not going to change their mind. 2017 I plan to avoid getting involved with stupid arguments because they are stupid for a reason. It’s unnecessary. Instead I will spend these efforts on productive actions. Actions are what really matter.
- Even Stupider People
This goes hand in hand with stupid arguments. I’m a pretty easy going person and tend to give everyone a chance. Which I will continue to do, but once people have proven to be stupid or are not worth my time, I’m not going to deal with them. I don’t need these people in my life, you probably don’t need them. In fact, nobody needs the people, so let’s all collectively avoid them!
- Worrying So Much About Other People’s Shit
A problem that I seem to find myself in a lot is getting really involved with other people’s drama and problems. Again, I’m a nice person and I care about my friends. I want to be there for them and help them. However, I don’t need to disregard my shit for their shit. Or more accurately, let their shit take over my life. I gotta deal with my own shit and stop disregarding it. If I don’t, it will just pile up and I’ll be swimming in this giant pool of shit which sounds awful. I need to avoid this giant pool and worrying so much about my friends shit in general.
- ….Falling All Over The Place
Okay, you knew this was coming right? This final one had to be obvious. While I do like the fact that these clumsy moments make life more interesting, the bruises that come with them are not fun. It would be nice if I could avoiding falling all over the place and only in just some places instead.
Those are six things I’m looking to avoid this upcoming year. If you couldn’t tell what I really want out of this year is to focus on my own personal goals. Those are kinda important. Feel free to leave comments down below of your goals or things you’re looking to avoid in 2017. Happy New Year!
P.S. I almost put a few certain people on my “Avoid List” but decided to avoid the potential drama that could come from this lol