Monthly Archives: January 2016

Follow Up: I SAW BERMUDA BOY (aka Al)

Alright, so this post is like 5 months overdue, but after rereading an old post and a goal to blog more about my life, I’ve decided I need to update you on Al aka Bermuda Boy aka my old crush.  If you’re not sure who I’m talking about, I recommend reading my blog post “Lori the Most Inspirational Waitress To Have Ever Lived.”  Here is quick version for those of you that don’t remember and are too lazy to go back:

Basically I reconnected with my old crush Al, code name Bermuda Boy, last year.  He invited me to go party in Bermuda and I DIDN’T GO!  Even though my friends and Lori, the best waitress I’ve ever had, said that I should have gone.  Recently (well back in August), I saw Lori again and had to confess my short comings.

Ironically a few days after I saw Lori, my mom told me that Bermuda Boy and his family were going to be in town.  That’s right, I saw him again.  Face to face.  Gosh, it was something to say the least.

Alright, so a few pieces of information that you need to know before I fully get into this.  Things I was aware of going into this re-meeting, thank you Facebook.  Al is a taken man, has been for more than a year now.  He did not stay single long, in fact he got together with this girl around the time I would have gone to Bermuda.  Maybe I dodged some heartbreak by not going, who knows.  That being said, I was still super excited and extremely nervous to see him again.

Do you have those people that you’ve met on occasion and wish you were better friends with?  I certainly do and Al is one of them.  When we last saw each other 6 years ago we just clicked.  I can’t explain it but even though he’s someone I rarely see, we really connect on a deep level.  It sounds crazy I know.  To be honest, I was 90% sure it was all in my head.  I was a dorky kid in high school and kind of a hopeless romantic.  Here was this cute, super cool guy that was around my age and was giving me the time of day.  That was what I remembered about Al.  I really wasn’t sure if high school me had seen things that weren’t there because she liked the idea of it.  Think about it, up until last year I had no contact with him.  He was friendly, but he could just be a nice guy.  He helped me with what I needed to know and then we went back to our lives.  Hadn’t talked to him much since.  This was the first time I was going to see how much of this stuff I had made up in my head was true.

Gosh I was so nervous that I delayed talking to him as soon as we got to the restaurant.  I, of course, happened to find their family first at the bar when we got there.  It was a surprise to say the least after hearing my mom talk about how they were always late.  I said a quick hello, hugged his parents, and literally went off to find my mom to tell her.  Although as everyone regrouped I had to face him.  We said our hello’s and once the ice was broken we literally did not stop talking.

It was like we had been friends forever and just hadn’t seen each other in a while.  I mean I’ve known him all of my life but we were never close.  Just family friends, ya know?  It was so easy to talk to him and we talked about everything.  I even confessed to him about how I was ready to hop on a plane to Bermuda for cupmatch last year but chickened out because I didn’t have anyone to go with.  He told me that I should have said something and came anyway.  He also insisted that one year I had to come and had an open invitation since he and his family were always going to be there for the event.  Our conversation even got deep as we talked about the troubles of being a twenty-something out of college.  My high school self was not making our clear connection up.  Al was really someone I connected with, which is hard to find.

If the fact that we basically talked and stuck by each the entire time wasn’t enough to convince me that I wasn’t crazy, his dad pulled my mom aside and basically said that this was the most he’s ever seen Al talk ever. Ever!  I sometimes forget that Al can be a quiet guy because we get along.  However, that is a statement.  Maybe there’s hope for us in the end.  If not that’s okay, I’d settle for good friends too.  The two of us just need to be better about keeping in touch and stop being so shy.

P.S. Thankfully the restaurant we ended up at was not the same one that Lori worked out.  She definitely would have remembered me and gone into the story basically telling everyone at the table that I had a crush on Al.  Now that would have been REALLY AWKWARD!

My Cousin’s Not So Secret Girlfriend

Both sides of my family are big gossipers.  A staple rule is that if you’re not at the family event, we will talk about you.  I don’t know how accurate that is though because they definitely talk about you when you’re there.  However, when you’re not there you cannot control the conversation or shut it down.  This is why I try to be there so I can control the gossip.  My cousin Brian on the other hand, has not learned this.

Since Facebook has become so popular, as a twenty-something you deal with the fact that your semi-stalker family is on it and friends with you.  This does not bother me that much because I don’t post a lot on Facebook, this is what blogs and Twitter are for.  Brian on the other hand could use some work with his Facebook skills.

He started to get tagged in a lot of pictures with the same woman named Elizabeth.  Some of them were more risque than others.  Since he was tagged in them, everyone in the family could see.  Once they saw they couldn’t help but gossip.  My uncle Toto and my cousin’s wife Jess were the worst by far.  My Aunt Laurie, who is married to Toto, referred to them as giggling school girls which is an accurate depiction.  Everyone thought they were dating and was so curious.  So my family did what they do best and went right to the source.

Poor Brian, I feel for the kid.  He got drilled so hard about this women Elizabeth and denied any sort of relationship with her.  It settled the family down at the time.  The issue was put to rest until the amount of pictures he had with this Elizabeth just continued to pile up.  Everyone was still suspicious.

I gave Brian the benefit of the doubt.  While I suspected they were sleeping together, I took his word that they weren’t dating.

A little more than a year later, I go on Facebook like any person my age to check my notifications.  Lo and behold right at the top of my newsfeed is a post from Elizabeth, that Brian was tagged in, devoted to their one year anniversary.  To say my family went cray would an understatement.  There was even an email thread about it.  You can’t keep things from family, no matter how hard you try.  Poor Brian learned that the hard way.

To everyone out there, your family is definitely Facebook stalking you.  So either be careful what you post or get ready for the questions.

P.S. My dad, who is not on Facebook, hilariously found out weeks later in a passing conversation and was pissed that no one ever told him.  Brian still had one person fooled even after the bomb dropped.