Have you ever received some amazing advice from an unlikely person or stranger? Last year this happened to me while I was getting brunch with my friends at a restaurant. I was kind of in a state of uncertainty at the time.
You see, I had this massive crush on this guy. He’s my mom’s friend’s son, we’ll call him Al. Al is a year younger than me, smart, funny, and someone I weirdly get along well with. The problem, we don’t live in the same country. He is from Bermuda, went to University in England, and I don’t know where he’s at now (it’s not America though). The last time I saw him was roughly 6 years ago when his family was visiting mine in America. Last year we became friends on Facebook and reconnected because my good friend Will was going on a cruise to Bermuda and wanted to know the hot spots. Apparently, Will had picked the best time to go.
It was cupmatch which is a big deal in Bermuda and basically like a giant party. Al literally sent me paragraphs upon paragraphs of awesome stuff that was happening that week. I was super jealous that I wasn’t going to be in Bermuda, so much so that I told Al. His response, “You should come!”
Not going to lie I’m 90% sure I collapsed on the ground after getting this message. I mean can you blame me? Here is this guy I had a crush on, who at the time was recently single, basically inviting me to go party in Bermuda. I didn’t know what to do with myself.
This happened at the end of June, so for most of July I basically went back and forth on what I should do. At first, my friend Marley and I were going to see if it were possible to join Will’s cruise. That fell through, the cruise was way expensive and overbooked. Then something came up with Marley, so it would just be me traveling there. I also wasn’t sure how serious Al was and if this was actually a terrible idea. As I stated earlier, I haven’t seen him in five years and we only just began talking again. He’s a family friend but not someone I am super close with. I could show up there and it be incredibly awkward. I was so torn on what to do.
Fast forward to one day when Will, my friend Jimmy, and I decided to have brunch at this place in the city. Of course we talked about my dilemma because it was all I talked about that summer. They both told me that I obviously had to go, but I was not convinced. I couldn’t strike that feeling of paranoia. It got to a point where my friend Will was just like “Let’s ask the waitress!”
Our waitress, Lori, was super sweet and very friendly. She was a cross between Taylor Swift and Kristen Bell. After Will told her my problem she gave me some of the best advice I have ever received. It was so amazing that I won’t be able to do it justice. Basically, she told me that I had to go. She said you have to go for it because regardless of what happens with him, it’s a trip to Bermuda! The trip alone will be an amazing experience and experiences are something you have to go for. There was obviously more and it was worded better. I almost cried after she lectured me about how risks are always worth taking. It was beautiful, plus I had 3 mimosas in me which made me feel even more emotional.
Her advice and that whole experience is something I will never forget. A few weeks ago, almost a year later, we went back to the restaurant and she happened to be our waitress again. She even remembered Will and I, and asked if I ended up going to Bermuda. You’re probably curious too after that build up, hell I would be.
Unfortunately, it’s kind of a let down because I didn’t end up going. Logistically I was having trouble working it out and was a BIG FAT CHICKEN and didn’t ask Al for ideas/help. Even after Lori’s amazing advice, I was too scared of the bad things that might have happened. I almost regret it now, but I subscribe to the belief that things happen for a reason. Overall, I think this has taught me that I need to take more risks and just go for things. Not taking risks leaves you with a boring life. So in a month I will be a 5 week trip, traveling to California, Seattle, and South Korea because why the fuck not.
Readers, I urge you to start living your life and just go for things. You don’t want to be like me and sort of regret not traveling to an exotic island to hang out with someone you haven’t seen in a while because you were scared. Don’t pass up opportunities.
P.S. I really hope that guy doesn’t stumble upon this page or at least this post. Talk about an awkward way of someone finding out you had a huge crush on them.